The Pefect Guy or The Pefect Lie?

Many women nowadays are attracted Mr. Awesome-Contradition. You know who I'm talking about ! That bad ass, aggressive, stand out guy who's also nice, caring, even-tempered and affectionate; all at the same time. He's loved because he's a man with no regrets about his ill-temper or his constant lying. Those traits make him a sweetheart to you because he being himself and "keeping it real". He might not have a job, but his music career will take off any day now. He didn't get his highschool diploma but he's not super dumb because he was only one credit shy of graduating. Or he could have a house/car/job/education but something might be wrong with you. That's okay though, you like it when he tell you your flaws. That means he cares, right? Now you remember that guy :].

The annoyance with Mr. Awesome-Contradition is that woman either meet this guy and redate him constantly in his various forms (same style different guy), or are still in an on/off relationship with this guy. The one who is in control of a relationship is the one with the least amount of feelings for the other person and that almost always is Mr. Awesome-Contradition.

I ask is it the 'perfect guy or  perfect lie' because I wonder, how are you ladies depicting your standards?
Do you cluster what you want and need into the same list of  general requirements for a potential boyfriend? He can't be bad yet good. Do you really want a bad guy? Or do you just want a man with a more liberal, individualized personality? Do you want a thug/insecure bully or somebody who's humble but you know will protect you when needed?

If he was a good boyfriend back in the early stages of dating and gradually demoted himself to the inconsist douche that he is now, don't dwell back on the past! You would hate for an elderly person to say, "Back in my day.." every five mins right? If you are the disrespectful type, you'd probably say something like " Well, we don't live back in your day!" What makes you think reminsicing on your past is any different? Are you telling your self you're happy d because he told you what you wanted to hear in the beginning... even if it's not what's being portrayed  in your relationship now?

Either he has goals or not. If he's been working at the same burger joint for three years, is over 21, and has told or shown you no plans of advancement whether it be school, starting an actual career of his choice or something else with a better pay grade, don't you think you should reevaluate ?

If he only wants to be around you when you two have your big bi-weekly argument and you talk about breaking it off, shouldn't that ring a bell in your boyfriend-dependant head? LOL, I guess not if you're boyfriend-dependant. I bet it's all good after he reassures you that he loves you and that you're the only person for him. :/

Majority of the time men get away with these type of acts because a good amount of women allow it. Some women would rather work on a failure that has been intact for three years, before or after moving in, making kids, instead of clensing their train of thought, starting over and finding someone who's actually worth it. Alot of times, it's also the sex ! Either you lost your virginity to him or the sex is just that good. Some single women in return will claim to have these standards and find themselves in a love-hate relationship shortly after claiming that they want this good, wholesome guy which is really a lie a last place consideration compared to a bad, douchey kind of jerkish inconsistant guy.

And to those kinds of ladies, you can have your cake and eat it too but you always get a tummy ache afterwards.

-andweout