4 BIG Tips to Narrow Down Your Match in Online Dating.

Because of the major advancements in technology, many people have now resorted to finding a love connection over a wireless connection. With social networking sites such as Twitter, Myspace, Facebook, Craigslist andGoogle "everything" this make going about this process ten times easier.

Is it really something to be feel creepy about? The answer to that question can be "yes" and "no". Some people have yet to come to the realization that although there is a potential chance, everyone on the computer isn't a killer or a rapist. There were more creepies on computers in the nineties because more people had less access to computers. In present day, computers are something that's found in pretty much any modern household. If not having access to the internt from computers there are also mobile phones, internet pads, and other wifi-enabled devices. Everyone is online. Just as quick as you were to log in to Facebook this morning, so were thousands of others in your city. If you still feel uncomfortable about online dating, my best advice is to stick with your gut instinct and stay home. There are hundreds of other ways to meet single people.

The good thing about online dating is that besides the initial talk, IM or message, you have a profile that is like a gold mine in front of you when considering the next step with a potential candidate. An online profile in the dating world so be thought of as a resume. This is where you get the background and cover letter of a potential person that might make it to the interview portion (dating). Take advantage of it ! Here I have provided four BIG tips on how to narrow down your possible match in online dating. If you want to have a chance at a long term relationship, it's important that you know who you're dealing with.

Tip 1: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF

If you're on a site that has the ability for you to narrow down physical preferences among other traits, keep it real. Nobody should be around you when completing this process. You should be independent enough to make your own decisions on the type of people you date and not worry about someone critiquing your interests. If you're only looking for a person who's a bikini babe or body builder, you're thinking too narrow-mindedly. I understand if you exercize daily you may want to date someone who's body size is similar to yours, but please, make room for adjustment.
Someone who's packing an extra five to ten pounds could be the match for you in all other aspects. The majority of people in America aren't as thin as you think.

Another example would be the educational background. If you're a college graduate whether undergrad, masters, or doctorate level, don't rule out all highschool graduates or anyone else below your degree rank. Pay attention to the job the candidate works for now and how long they've been there. Look to see if they are in school now. If someone has worked their way up in an average to above average company with only a high school diploma or community college credits, that's considered impressive. The willpower and determination in this person is there, whether they went to school or not. Look to see if the person has a city or government job, that also says alot when looking at the stability and income of a job. The thing you should be worried about is if the job is stable and provides an adequate salary for this person to live off of.

Tip 2: PAY ATTENTION

As stated before, another advantage with online dating is usually the valuable information found on profile pages. This includes sites as general as myspace and as detailed as Match.com. You have acess to pictures, comments, a biography, friends, and all other miscellaneous information.

-Don't just skim through the pictures to see if the person is attractive.

Pictures tell a thousand words. Look how they represent themselves in the picture ! If a guy has his middle fingers raised or is showing off his collection of alcohol, that can either tell you what type of guy he is or the type of guy he is trying to portray. Same with a girl who has yet to be seen with more than an inch of clothing in every picture. If these aren't the people you're searching for, it would be advisable pay more attention to a guy in a picture.

- Biography, What does this person have to say for themselves?
READ the biography, see where his or her mind is. Even though everyone can't explain themselves as interesting or detailed as the next, it is still worth a read. Lines such as "DONT MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE FAT OR UGLY", "MONEY OVER WOMEN" or "WHERE DA PARTY AT?" are good indictors in letting you know whether somebody is narrowminded or not. If somone makes it a prominent point to let you know that the outward appearance is all thier interested in, this person isn't for you. Don't feel flattered becuase you think they think you're attractive because they responded to your message; just back away. They might think you're attractive now, but later on if you meet in the flesh or undergo some changes that travel outside of their preferential boundaries, you might be in trouble.

Check out the grammar! Are they talking in an excessive amount of slang? Profanity? Or aRe dey Juzz typiin liike disZ? This is important if you want your a profressional and don't want your date embarrasing at the next office party or social event you attend.

How do they express themselves? Positive? Negative? If you're a christian and you're lookin for another true christian, somewhere in that person's profile they should mention their religion, their love for jesus or what they do in the church or the community that is of God's word. Any person who is a normal christian would look for indictors that their candidates are heavily in to God.

Also ladies, there's no such thing as "bad guy" who can turn it off when he wants to. If he's a "thug" or "bad guy" in real life, thats's what his personality will portray. That means when and if he gets mad, ya juuust might see that thug side come out. Ever met someone with an anger problem? Drinking problem? Shopping problem? There not a switch enabled on these person to turn off these traits. There has to be a traumtic change in the person's train of thought to shut it off altogether. which may not be you.


-It's not considered stalking, it's considered saving your self.


Consider yourself a case manager. You have the file of John or Jane Wantstodateyou in the from of an online profile. If he or she has a myspace or facebook, READ the comments. See what he or she is talking about. See what he or she into with their friends! See if their up to something illegal, see if what they say in their biography contradicts who they really are. Some may consider it stalking, but bruh, sis.. LOOK: 0nly you know you're doing it and it is better safe than sorry. I say this to say do it BEFORE you date and BEFORE you date ONLY. After you've began the relationship it is considered stalking. You should always be able to trust the person you get into a relationship with enough to not stalk them.

Look at his or her top friends, see what their profiles consists of. Birds of a feather flock together. Now granted somebody may have just put anyone for space fillers on their top 12, but pay attention to the people closest to the number one spot that aren't family unless they only hang with family. With comments, biographies, pictures, and friends you can get more of an idea of what this person's personality might consist of.

Look at the sexual, smoking, diet and child bearing preferences. That fine myspace guy who's digging you could be bisexual. Is that something you're going to be comfortable with? If you're a light smoker, don't believe in smoking or allegeric to smoke, why would you date a heavy smoker? If you don't believe in the slaughtering of animals for food and are a level 5 vegan, would you really want to date someone who scarfs down any type of meat they can get their hands on? Look and see if the person has children, whether they're pregnant or if they even want kids in the future. You may think kids are not something to worry about right now, but if you're a certain age and not getting any younger, this may be a top priority to you.

Tip 3: Ingest all that I said and make sure your profile accurately describes you.

Be real to yourself and write want you need in your biography. Your biography shouldn't be a book or filled with a list of demands but you should write about yourself as much as what you look for in a person. This is the cover letter of your resume, so make it stand out. Saying you you want somebody who's real, doesn;t play and games, and is not drama isn't being descriptive. Everybody will deny those three things. Make sure describe your personality so that you will shine to a person with a similar background.
Put pictures of yourself in your biography that represent the typical you. Upload a picture or two by yourself, but also include pictures of you with others or engaging in hobbies that you enjoy. If you play guitar, have somone take a picture of you while strumming a chord. If you snowboard, have that camera ready on a ski slope! In other words, if you have special or interests or what others to know that you are outgoing, what better way to show in a picture? Visual descriptions can go online way.

-Miscellaneous Tips

Skype is an awesome way to see a person in real-time before you meet. Sometime you can see how compatible you'll be if you talk to someone online face to face. Do this only if you dont get nervous easily on camera. Remember, you want to show your good side. If not, make sure your backround is tidy, appearance is presentable from the neck up and smile :). You're on candid camera.

Also, don't make yourself seem desperate. Don't devote all your time to talk to this person, and don't be so easily to give in to person. The more available, the less attractive.

A movie is the worst first date to go to (unless you've done a social activity before hand). You learn nothing about the person and you hardly get to see them. Try doing something social such as restaurants, pool, bowling, skating, etc.

If you met them on facebook, don't ask the person who their twitter, myspace, blogspot, google maps and anything else they might have. Unless you research on your own, don't ask for all their of their profiles. Facebook has enough information to go off of. Don't make your self look desperate or creepy.

Tip 4: BE SAFE !!!

Last but not least make sure your being safe about things. If the person feels shakey, stay home! Your life is not would losing to your destin for true love. Use common sense!

Use your own transportation. Remember, this person is still somebody you've never met, so find your own way to get there.

Bring extra money. Anything can happen, I don't care if he's paying for your meal or if you have a car full of gas, ladies. This goes along with using common sense.

This concludes my thoughts !

-andweout